I think I will try and pluck up courage to get dad to a barbers when we go to the doctors tomorrow.

I get very nervous about continence issues and I can't very well follow him around cleaning up if he sprays the walls or makes a mess. .

You can't just tell him to go to the bathroom before we leave. He will treat me to a withering look

and an indignant attitude and then five minutes down the road he'll say he needs the loo or, worse still, not realise and we walk round with obviously wet trousers or mess!